The illusion of being in control

The illusion of Being in control

You Cannot control your life , you can only do whats right in each moment .

Your approach to the moment becomes your life.

What can you control that is really worth anything ?

The best things are free, but you need to be free to enjoy them.

  Love is either free or it in not love.

You have to be free to give and receive.

The feeling you try to control, control you.

You cannot control others without losing their love.

If you hold upper handover others, you cannot love them, you can only abuse them.

When you use something but acceptance to get your way, you are only manipulating others.

You can’t buy love without paying interest for the rest of your life.

When you have to pay for love, you’re only controlled in return.

Release your grip.

Loosen your hold.

Let it all be.

Declare what you want.

Risk rejection and failure.

Allow people to be what they are and then you can be yourself.

Being Open

BEING OPEN

Living openly is best. Anything that stands between you and your heart creates pain.

Talking about problems is admitting you have them. Admitting problems is the first step in solving them . You can’t solve the problem you won’t face.

You can’t be fixed if you don’t reveal the part of you that’s broken.

Hide even a small fault and it keeps you from getting close.

Disclose a great weakness and you create intimacy.

What you conceal becomes your suffering Try to protect yourself against all possible hurt and you hurt yourself more than you would if you were open.

You can never be safe if you can never be happy.The shield that protect against any hurt diminishes every joy.

If you stand up for your pain you can love.

Love can only flourish where it is easy to tell the truth .

The world is about taking in , not shutting out.

Be open to all of you.

To love yourself, accept all of yourself.

No one is alone who loves him or herself.

To Be Open

TO BE OPEN

To be open is to be willing to see and be seen .Openness is based on self acceptance and a desire to grow.

Openness and freedom are linked .

Only the open are free.

Only the free are open.

Love only flourishes in openness.

It is hate and suffering that prosper in secret.

The feelings that you hold in take over your life.

Open your heart. If you lock too many feelings away, you lose yourself.

The painful truth told now is better than an unhappy life lived in silence.

Tell it.

The feelings you don’t admit take over your life and imprison you. Admit it.

There are no mysteries to life when you are open.

Being open is living your best life.

When you are open, you become free to leave the mark you’re supposed to.

When you are open, all the answers are knowable.

The Moment

The moment.

Isn’t life made up of moments? Some worth re-living over and over, some causing deep pain, hurt and resentment and some passing by insignificant, unnoticed, yet silently contributing to the span of your life?

Sometimes it takes just a moment to let a mindless thought slip out. You said it in anger; you were irritated when you said it and you did not mean it at all. Yet, you hurt deeply the person to whom you uttered these words. It takes only a moment to apologize, but it can take a lifetime to forget. Sometimes, a lifetime is not enough.

Sometimes, it takes just a moment to say something nice. You might have said it spontaneously. You might have meant it at that moment, but forgotten later. But the recipient of those words will remember it for a long long time. Kindness is usually not forgotten, perhaps because it seems to be rare in the times we live in.

I have had my moments of hurt, and my moments of joy. The latter still bring mad laughter when I remember, and are priceless moments. The former, I am just not able to forget. I am able to forgive the people who hurt me, but I just cannot forget. Many find it strange, as they feel forgiveness and forgetting are inter-linked. I don’t agree. When you forgive, it means you no longer bear grudges—but deep down you still remember. I think it is a bit like childbirth. Years later, you forget the pain but you are aware how painful it had been.

A Calendar which hangs on my bedroom wall says “Live the moment.”

Seek the good in others

Seek the good in others

This is not about being a do-gooder. It’s about being smart, efficient and productive.

It’s about making your life easy.

When you look for the good in others, they show it to you.

When you appreciate their worth, others find it easy to be their best.

When you accept others, they don’t fear rejection .They show their strength instead of concealing their weaknesses .They act confident instead of afraid.

 Other people want someone to notice that they are good and valuable.

They want to belong and to be thought of as special.

They need someone to believe in them.

Looking for the good is that belief.

Look for the good in other person, especially when he or she is troublesome, did wrong or is on probation. Don’t ignore his or her problems, but continue to encourage the good.

Anyone who doubt can find failings.

Finding the good takes belief.

When you bring out the good in someone, you often discover a powerful ally, loyal worker and true partner/friend.The search for the good is its own reward.

The discovery of that good is never forgotten.

When you look for the good in others, you often discover your own best and find another reason to believe in yourself.

You Deserve

You Deserve

You deserve the best .

Its true.

You deserve,  even if you don’t think you are deserving.

You don’t think you deserve to be treated badly? Well , its true. You don’t deserve to be treated badly.

But the sad truth is that you deserve just what you accept.

If you don’t like what is happening to you, it is upto you to say something and do something about it.

Don’t complain. You deserve exactly what you tolerate.

Don’t expect others to change.

You deserve the best.

You settle for less only because you don’t believe you deserve.

You’re going to have to take a leap of faith and believe that you’re deserving. Your belief that you are  deserving allow people to give to you and opens the world to your giving.

 You deserve to give of your best as well as to receive the best. The world deserves to hear from you. As a matter of fact, the world needs

to hear from you.

May be the reason you don’t feel deserving is that you aren’t giving enough of what you were put here to give.

M.B.A. What it is?

When we hear M.B.A. the only thing we think of is of “Master of business Administration” but it means many more things. Here are some of the forms; ‘Mad Boys association’ in lighter vein, ‘Mind on Bhagwan Always’ on a devotional note and ‘Mind Body and Atma (soul) giving a spiritual dimension to it.

 It is very rightly said, management is fundamentally man management, take an example of watch what do the words explain – Watch your -

W – your WORDS, H- your HEART , A – your ACTIONS , T- THOUGHTS, C- CHARACTER , H – your HEART

It is also said Management can be learnt through Bhagwad Gita. So is the reason why it is included in curriculum in IIM’s and other management institutes. Of Corse Gita teaches us Work is Worship. In short greatness of Gita can be described as – ‘It is like a kalpavriksha- a wish fulfilling tree’ That is why :-

Gita is the messenger of God

Gita is the Mother of entire universe

Gita is the supporter to a Sadhaka

Gita is the swimming gear for the householder

Gita is the repository of mantras

Gita is the spring of Vedantha

Gita is a beautiful path of flowers

Gita is the right royal path.

Management includes discipline, duty and devotion, leadership. Discipline is also the key ingredient to education. According to me duty and devotion with sincerity should be saturated with discipline. Discipline entails strict observance of rules and regulations. Without discipline the mind of a man turns into a wild elephant so catch it in young .Therefore it is rightly said; Discipline is integral part of education and key ingredient to a good and dynamic personality.

According to various studies on management 12 % of effective management is knowledge and 88 % is dealing appropriately with people. Leadership is traditionally considered to be a process where in one person influences others to achieve a purpose. Accordingly, a person whose thoughts, words and deeds are in harmony can become a good and effective leader. The entire distillate of effective leadership process is summed up just in 4 words.

1. TO BE  2. TO DO  3. TO SEE  4. TO TELL

Firstly TO BE is a trait form of leadership stepped in the leader’s personal values, quality and knowledge.

Secondly TO DO is leadership based on practicing what we preach finally TO SEE and TO TELL are the functions, tools and techniques of leadership. To See implies that a leader must be in complete touch with the realities of the environment in which he/she is working. To Tell means conveying to others what the leaders want them to do.It can be inferred from the foregoing analysis that effective leader is one who influences himself / herself first before influencing others and as such self-management becomes an important prerequisite of effective leadership.

So to conclude with;

Sow a thought, reap an action

Sow an action, reap a tendency

Sow a tendency, reap a habit

Sow a habit, reap a character

Sow a character reap YOUR destiny.

Therefore Destiny is our creation. If we change our habit we can be a master of our Destiny.