Before anyone will land you a hand, you must first touch their hearts. Isnt it? Yes! Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and help them become what they are capable of being .And that is what human moments are all about. Those little opportunities to show your humanity to another person. Those little windows of chance to show love and compassion for another person that reveals themselves each and every day but generally go unseized because we are all so darn busy being busy. And seizing these opportunities to create human moments deepens our relationship in profound ways.Right?
And not only that these human moments leave us with incredible memories which at the end of the day are most precious things of life. You see a great life is nothing more than a series of great memories woven together. Fascinating! But true. All too often we got caught up in thinking that we need to achieve great heroic acts in order to validate our lives and bring us great success. But thats not the way to real happiness. Real and lasting happiness comes through progressive accumulation of lovely memories and special moments. For rest of our days let us commit ourselves in doing whatever it takes to collect as many great memories as possible. let us not forget that the best way to be really really successful in life is to be really really kind.
Speaking your truth means speaking from your heart. Far too many people in our world speak only in the words they know that people around them want to hear. They use their words to manipulate and control rather than to express their true feeling and build a kind of understanding that always lead to greater love. In using words that do not reflect what they really mean, how they truly feel , live their lives in the state of dishonesty. Only by speaking your truth what you truly feel , believe and know- will you be in a position to be the person you are destined to be.
Words have great power. Don’t say you will do something unless you can be sure you will do it. Try to keep every promise that you make. Try to become meticulous with your words. That sounds hard being meticulous with your words but i mean i have so many commitments .Its not easy to follow through on all of them. Then stop making so many! We must be the kind of a person who does the right thing every time. The kind of a person who lives a by a private code of honour. In doing so we will gain the respect of other people. Even more importantly people who keep their promises gain credibility. Their family comes to rely on them and deeply believe in what they say......because they know it is truth.
I have thought that gaining credibility in the eyes of my family and peers was that important. I have always thought that there were other priorities for me as a daughter, sister and friend. But credibility is a key it promotes trust and trust as I have said lies at the heart of every deep meaningful relationship. I simple mean don’t make a promise to someone or a make a commitment unless you are certain you can deliver on it.”Your promises mean the world to person or kids. Understand when you break these promises , you break their hearts.”
You know to really deepen your human connects and begin to constantly touch the hearts of your dear ones we must become what I call Aggressive listener ! Aggresive listener isn’t about being a more aggressive person. Its all about being more committed listener. Too many people in this fast pages age think that listening involves nothing more than waiting until the other person has finished speaking before they jump in. Becoming a masterful listener is a lost skill in these times of over scheduled living and yet it is an essential way to built trust with your dearones. Out of many one of our hunger is the need to be cherished and understood. We all have a deep need to be listened to and to feel that our word have been heard by those we are speaking to. When we listen aggressively we focus every ounce of our attention on the words to the other party is offering to you and listen with great empathy and care. This inturn sends a powerful signal to the person speaking that you respect, value and are interested in what he/she is saying. And that increase the trust level within the relationship. Understanding is the building block of love and listening is a skill to be mastered rather than a talent we are born with. ’The more you do it, the better you get at it.’ For example – Your eyes light up when i ask the question about the thing you are passionate about and than simply listen to the answer in the sincere way. I know it makes you feel important. And understand. This is what strenghthen the bond of your relationship.
Another thing is to become fanatically important which means that no matter how hard it feels to speak the truth in a given situation and how difficult it is to let your true thoughts shine through, be honest.”Say what you mean to say.” I should clarify being fanatically honest doesn’t mean to be so blunt that you offend and insult people. I mean fanatically honest kind. Its about being meticulous with your word. Dont treat your words lightly they are powerful. When you say something make certain that you mean it. When you feel strongly about a situation express it, it deepens the trust people have in you. They know when you say something it is truthful. You gain immense respect in their eyes and you grow in power as a human being when you speak the truth in all circumstances....People know where I/you stand and there is no longer anything fake about me/you. All of the superficiality that decorates most of our character is stripped away and we become the real one in humanity – more than just an individual person.
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