Three words, "I Love You" have changes lives miraculously while three dreaded words "I Hate You" have often triggered of violence."Sorry', "please", "thank-you" have
worked wonders. Some words can give you hurt, heart burns and ego. It is said be cautious in speaking. When you injure another with your words the bond of friendship breaks forever. Even if the relationship is mended there will always remain a knot. So beware of your words. Don’t let anyone's harsh words govern your moods. Why should envy, fear, anger, lust, attachment and greed cause a storm in us? Be calm and you will always be happy. Only in happy heart can love unfold itself. And to achieve self realisation one must be happy and successful. To be happy is to be successful.
People are the same , they give back what they receive from you. Yet day in and day-out , people inflict poisonous dart on each other. It is often said by our elders when you feel tempted to speak harshly, control that impulse and talk calmly instead. No one hear harsh words from you. Be not afraid to speak the truth when you are asked to do so, but do not force your thoughts on others.You may be speaking the truth when you speak of a blind man as a blind an or of a sick man as a sick but be tactful so that the sensibilities are not hurt.Some people turns sick with jealousy,others with anger,hatred and passion.
They are the victims of their emotions.You amde your habits,you can change them.
So utter words that can soothe others and which will also help you to keep yourself cool!
Daily living has three aspects-
1. Each individual has a particular situation this means deciding that what you want in a given situation and doing whatever you think you should do it to get it. Ones you have done it, your free will is ended.
2. What happens after is not in your control. Experience shows that sometimes you have got what you have wanted and sometimes you have not. Or what you have got is totally unexpected.
3. Thereafter society accepts what has actually happened as your own action, good or bad and you are rewarded and punished.
Reward has come to mean pleasure and punishment has come to be understood as pain all in the moment. We have no choice but to accept if we want to continue living in that society. This constitutes our happiness or unhappiness from moment to moment over which we have no control nor can we know what will bring pleasure or pain, or know the total amount of pleasure or plain assigned to us during our lifetime. Happiness cannot depend on what we experience moment to moment. Rather it must depend upon our attitude towards life. It is important that we engage ourselves in self-enquiry: what is your attitude towards life that has prevented you from being happy? The main reason for our unhappiness is your relationship with the other. Daily living means your relationship with the other- whether that other is a close relative, friend, colleague or a total stranger. You cannot be happy unless your relationship with the other is harmonious. Being happy is to be at peace with yourself i.e. never to be uncomfortable with yourself.
You are not totally comfortable with yourself in your relationship with the other because the other will not always do what you want him/her to do and you cannot expect him/her to do either! Does it mean that we can never be happy? Thats not true because we know atleast one or two people who enjoy the same pleasure we do,
suffer the same pain and yet they are transparently happy, never uncomfortable with themselves. So what about u are u comfortable with yourself?
Third problem is apparently a dead end. You cannot expect the other to always do what you want him to do. No one really does anything. Events happens deeds are done, consequences happen but no one does any deed. Everything happens according to HIS law therefore no one can be blamed for any happening.
Everything is a happening for which neither you nor the other can be blamed. So even if a happening hurts, you cannot hate anyone, neither yourself nor the other. With the total acceptance of this concept the load of hatred for yourself and for others totally disappears which leads to the peace of mind for yourself and a harmonious relationship with the other, the happiness you have been seeking for all the life.
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